If that link isn't the best example of "what goes around...", then I'm not sure of a better one at this moment.
Now, a lot of people, thanks to the media, think that all gay rights supporters are just vandalizing the entire world and ready to tear someone's face off over the passing of proposition 8. The truth is, not everyone is.
Amanda and I are 1 of the 11,000 couples that married legally during those few months in California. We are truly the few out of the many. If anyone in the world should be pissed off, shouldn't it be us? Naturally, I believe so but we're not.
Before I explain why, let me just say THANK YOU! to the people protesting around the nation (not rioting, like the news has said) and working your ass off on our behalf. We wouldn't have come this far without our supporters and just the people that "get it". If I had more time in my day, more money in my banking account, and more patience about subjects that I feel strongly about then I would be doing what I could 24/7 to fight back at this ridiculous ban. But, the truth is, I can't. Not right now.
Now, why are we not completely pissed off about prop 8? Well, first off, we have to maintain our relationship with one another. Getting emotional about something like this only leads couples to take their anger out on one another. I admit, I let this passing of prop 8 overshadow Barack's victory. I was very "whatever" about the whole election night because I knew that prop 8 was going to pass. It was a gut instinct, no real deep research was accomplished on my behalf. So I just headed to bed after his speech and let the whole thing just sit with me a few days and then I started to get mad and I did take it out on Amanda, the last person in the world I should have even thought about turning against. But then she said, "If you're pissed off at something that's going on outside in the world, don't blame me for it." And she was right and I have to continue to remind myself about that everyday.
I let prop 8 control me for about a day and a half, but it doesn't anymore. The world is a huge place. Bigger than I could ever imagine. There are people at this very moment, sitting in offices around the world planning out terrible laws and plans, etc. to oppress and hurt others. By sitting in my home, where I am suppose to find solace, and getting pissed off over something that is out of my hands at this moment, I accomplish nothing.
We still wear our rings. We still call each other our "wife" when referring to each other to someone else. We still sleep in the same bed with our dogs. We remind each other of how much we love one another everyday, several, several times a day. We laugh and laugh...and laugh. We're good people and we pose no threat to anyone. I would consider us some of the most down-to-earth, normal people you could ever meet. Ask the people that know us best and I'd bet money that no one would disagree.
But I guess some people see otherwise. In fact, I know it.
In my past, I've met people who have reacted to my being gay with a very "Oh, my God" type of reaction. If they didn't say it verbally, they're body language screamed it. Some of those people are still cool with me, some have fell off my radar. But I wish that I could just sponsor someone that claims to never have met a gay person. I want to meet those people. I want to talk to them very deeply and answer all of their questions very honestly. I want a no-holds-barred interview for hours and hours in a coffee shop, all drinks on me. I want to open someone's eyes about this. I want to show them that the lies are just that, lies. We're not the boogie man in the middle of the night. We are people that are capable of maintaining self-control and monogamous relationships, unlike the stereotypes portray us as. I want the truth spread, not dirty money to oppress people that just want to love one another. I want understanding and peace.
Plain and simple.
But until that happens, the fight continues and money that could be spent to spread the word of God, is instead spent to spread the trend of hate.
Much love and PEACE.
-Scarlet
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